Wed 11 Jan 2006
I know you’ve heard it a thousand times before, but I never knew how much I’d miss a full night’s sleep! The E-man has only slept through the night (without a single wake-up) twice, so everynight there’s a least one period of hunger or annoyance (annoyance at not being in bed with us, where he likes to be!).
Over Christmas break we decided that it was time to stop co-sleeping. I think my wife would have let him sleep with us until he was 18, but I thought 8 months was good enough. Before this change we would let him fall asleep on us downstairs while we read or watched tv, then we’d take him upstairs, feed him, and put him to bed permanently around 9 or so. A few hours later he’d wake up and come back to bed with us for the rest of the night.
Our new routine starts with a diaper change and a sleeper at 6:30PM. Next we read to him, followed by a nice warm bottle in a darkened room. He is then transferred to the crib. Now, the first night we tried this he didn’t fall asleep on the bottle and he cried in his crib for 24 minutes before falling asleep. It was the longest period of time in my life - I grew 124 new gray hairs as my wife and I sat in the livingroom staring at each other. It was horrible. The next night, however, he only cried for a few minutes, and within a week it was just a 10 second fuss before rolling off to sleep. It’s wonderful having so much time in the evening to get things done while he’s blissfully sleeping upstairs. He’s getting a lot more sleep than he used to, and he seems happier and healthier for it.
We tried to let him cry through his wake-ups at night (when we thought they weren’t discomfort, diaper, or hunger cries), but we didn’t have the heart to do it. So instead we get up and comfort him a little, which usually calms him down and leads him back to sleep. I guess with an 8-month-old I shouldn’t complain about just one wake-up a night - I know a lot of other people have it a lot harder than we do. But I would still love a full night of sleep!




January 12th, 2006 at 7:39 am
Take it from somebody who is now learning the hard way. I couldn’t let my first child cry it out. So now I have a 2 1/2 yr old in my bed every night (who WON’T fall asleep until the house is dead quiet) while my 1 yr old is sleeping sound every night for an avg of 13 hrs every night.
Say hi to the family for me. I hope to see you all when the snow melts for the winter.
January 12th, 2006 at 12:06 pm
Not to scare you, but an infant just died not too long ago in Florida becasue the parent’s rolled over on the kid sleeping in their bed. Really Sad.
I have a post lined up on the same topic. for tomorrow or nextr week. Routine is best for the kids.
January 12th, 2006 at 6:22 pm
We thankfully did not ever do the co sleep thing … I was too terrified! But we also were VERY lucky to have a child who slept through the night from 2 months on … her sleep patterns have certainly changed throughout the course of her 18 months of life, but overall she has been consistent … we did do the cry it out a bit too, and still she might whine for a few moments some nights, but she is happy and healthy, and so are we! And believe me when I say I NEED her to go to bed on time, especially with Dennis deployed! Once she is in bed is when I clean, do school work, and have some ‘me’ time!!! Anyway, hang in there you guys … full nights of sleep will come for you again soon!!!!!